Lovelines: My girlfriend is always in the midst of boys
Friday, July 11, 2008
I am in love with a certain girl, but I don’t trust her. Each time you see her, she is always in the middle of boys.
I don’t think you love her as you said. If you do, as a lover, tell her that you dislike seeing your girlfriend in the midst of boys all the time. You may not be able to stop her instantly, because she is used to it, but gradually, she might change. You might as well realize that she has more male friends than female friends. But it is probably because of the area she lives. Good luck!
She treats me like a brother
I love a girl but she treats me like a brother. I don’t know what to do.
Well, it is left to you to play the game with maturity. Play it step by step. Be caring, loving, and kind to her. Penetrate her gradually, and make yourself relevant and romantic to her. To catch a monkey, one has to behave like one. Before you know it, she will be crazy about you. Good luck!
I met another girl in his house
I went to see my boyfriend but I met his other girlfriend there, despite having been in love for a good 3 years. She told the girl in my presence that he had been in love with me for a long time. The girl then asked him: "is she your girlfriend?" and he replied in the positive. What should I do now?
Well, you have to be patient and see his reaction when you meet with him on your next visit. The fact that he told his new girlfriend in your present about your relationship connotes some form of respect for you. If he did not talk about the girl in your next visit or apologize for what had happened until you decide to leave, enquire about it yourself.
He will surely give you an explanation. After making out a meaning from the explanation, tell him you love him, and that since he would not be ready to share you with another man, you too would not want to share him with another woman. Warn him that if he is tired of you, he should let you know. If there is anything that the other girl will offer him that you have not been able to give him, he should let you know. Do all these in a respectful manner, and give him time to think about it. Good luck!
I was disappointed
It was a disappointing discovery, when I found out that my girlfriend’s best friend was successful in snatching my love, match-playing a girl I have been in love with, for one year now, to one of her boyfriend’s friends. I love my girlfriend dearly. She probably did this so that both of them would be free to go to her boyfriend’s house. After she had succeeded in her mission, she came to reveal to me what she had done. When my girlfriend knew that I was aware of everything she was shocked, and came to me crying, denying that she actually did it. What can I do?
Pity you! You can still give her another chance to prove her innocence, so that you can rest assured that it is her friend who is really doing the connection. If it is really from her mind you can’t change her. But since she has cried and denied it, consider her appeal. Try to renew your love for each other, and at the same tell her to watch the type of friends she moves with, as it was her friend who did this and came back to you to report it. Think about it as a guy. Good luck!
We have been dating for 6-month, but now that I have proposed to marry her after she had finished her education, her parents turned down the proposal because we are of different religion. But we are deeply in love and we don’t want to lose each other. What do we do?
There is not much more you can do but to be patient and let the girl decide what she want for herself. You may as well convert to her religion. In case none of you is ready to convert to the other’s religion, you have the alternative of calling it quit. Try as much as possible to avoid a controversial marriage. Good luck!
I am dating a married man against the advice of my friends
I am a 24-year-girl, dating a married man. My friends warned me against the act, saying that he is fond of using girls and dumping them. I didn’t listen to their warning because he showed me so much love and care that no man had ever done. When he realized that I am madly in love with him, he changed totally. He doesn’t answer my calls anymore. He hardly replies to my SMS text messages. The worst thing happened on my birthday, when he refused to wish me happy birthday. I want to let go of him but deep inside my heart I still love him. I don’t know what to do.
Stop crying over a spoilt milk! Say to hell with a ‘deep love’ for someone that hurts your feelings. Nowadays many married men like to exercise their stiff body on the aerobic body of fresh ladies outside. They are ready to spoil ladies with everything and behave like platonic lovers just to have what they want - "sex", and nothing more. Because they feel that their wives in the house are old cargoes. You have to put him behind you and curse the very day you fell in love with him. That is the only way you can cast away his love from your heart. Stop thinking about him, look for a man or boy you can chat with as a friend. All this is to help you quickly forget about him. You can find a reliable guy that you can always trust and chat with from time to time over the phone; this will make you forget about him in jiffy. Good luck!
Her friends say bad things about me
We are both teenagers in love. My problem is that her friends always say bad things about me. Because of this she wants us to call off the relation.
Try as much as possible to make her realize how deeply you both love each other. Tell her to forget about the hearsay or rumors that her friends carry about you. If she really loves you, she ought to study you to know the type of person you are, as to whether all bad things they tell her about you are true or not. Surely everyone has his or her own shortcoming. My advice, however, is that you should desist from indulging in love activities and face your studies. If you have good grades, ladies will start flocking around you like the way ants follow sugar. Good luck!
He is not ready to marry
I have been dating a guy for the past 9 months. But anytime I come up with the issue of marriage or making children, he chooses to remain mute. However, he does everything for me without hesitation.
Well, all you need to do is to have a heart-to-heart discussion with him. Try to find out from him if he is ready or not, whether he wants you as a wife or just for a bedmate. Then it will be up to you to make a decision on the basis of his answer. In case you do not understand what I mean give me a call for more explanation. Good luck!
What should I do?
The parents of a lady I have been dating for 3 years refuse to leave their daughter for me. I sent my father to ask for her parents’ consent to marry her. Everything went fine. They went on to fix a date that she was supposed to come to my home. Surprisingly, before that day came, her parents called me to say that they had postponed the ocassion indefinitely. What can I do now, should I marry another girl?
There are many things I would love to know about this. First, what was the reason given for this action. Secondly, what did your fiance say about it? Thirdly, what action or step have you taken to know what might have led to this sudden postponement by your would-be in-laws. Moreover, what action have you taken to see that this lady is given to you? And if you have ever taken any step since this unexpected postponement what was the outcome? Tell me, are you sure that both of you dearly love each other? I will not advice you as to whether to marry another girl or not. What is your father’s response on this matter? Bring more light on this to enable me say something. For urgent answer, make a call to Lovelines. Good luck!
I have never been in a relation before
I am a gal of 20 who has never had any boyfriend or be in a relation before, because of my studies. But now that I have finished my examination, my best friend is forcing me to get into a relationship.
I will like to feel proud of you for been able to choose your studies as your lover up to this time. But one thing that will surely make me to do so is if you are able to wait till you are ready. Many young girls think that if you do not have a lover you are ‘local’, meaning unaware. If you are ambitious, boyfriend or girlfriend will not be the issue for now. The best advice for you is that if you have not started the game, try to hold on untill you are able to know what you really want from a relation and the type of relation you want. But if you have started before the time you sent this text, try to control yourself because it requires a genius character to make love than to command armies. Love always blocks senses, especially when you are new in it. I do not say you shall remain without love or been loved, but wait untill the time it will really come from your mind to have a boyfriend. You should not allow anyone to push you into it. Try to call me if this sounds unclear to you. Good luck!
We don’t love each other
I am confused as my mum is forcing me to marry a man who does not love me, neither do I love him. I have done all I could to love him but to no avail. To add more pepper to injury, I later realized that he is seeing another girl, yet my mum wants the marriage to go ahead because the guy is my cousin. This guy does not even care about me.
I do not know if you have ever tried to see if it will work out between the two of you. I can understand from your note that you have done all you could to love him…" Whatever the case maybe make your mum understand that, she who carries it knows how heavy it is, because it is you who want to marry this man not your mother. If you go into this relationship with force, you will not last there long. Try to make your mother understand that you have tried your best and it did not work out. Ask her if she could stay where she was not wanted or if she would be happy where her spirit detested. She can only control you but not your mind. As far as you know that both of you do not loveone another, it is better you both sit down to talk and look for the best way to discharge each other for a better future. Good luck!
I am interested in her
My cousin is attracted to me so much that, I ended up loving her. She resides abroad. She was here last year, during her stay, she learnt through our relatives that I want her as a wife. I am wondering about this because I do not see any changes in the way we socialize. Do you think this girl will accept my love proposal? and how do you think I can present myself before her, since she is not in town. Should I wait till she is back for another holiday? Note that I want her only for marriage.
Delay is sometime dangerous. Since you know that she is aware of your intention towards her, it is better for you to give her a call and express your feeling to her. The question of whether she will accept you or not,…" it is for Allah to answer, but I know if you present yourself well and if the girl has not yet hook with someone, she might accept you, when she notice that you are interested in her. Moreover, since you do not talk to her yet. You can call Lovelines for guidelines of how to toss her on the phone. Good luck!
This girl wins my heart
I am married to a young girl of 17years while I am 29. I came across another girl that won my heart but she is just a friend for the time being. Also there is friendship existing between her and my wife. What is your advice?
I will advise you to keep off from this girl. You have a teenager girl already and I know this girl may be your wife’s age mate because they are friends. Beside, at your age, if you start engaging in promiscuity there would hardly be any everlasting love between you and your wife. There is the possibility that, you might meet a well mature lady than your wife who could caused you to forget her. If your wife gets to know that you are cheating on her ,it might warrant her to take to your footsteps,and any day you find out, I know it is going to resolve into a divorce. To protect your marriage, it is better you let go this girl. I do not advise you to keep girlfriends, if you want respect for your family. Don’t eat your table but around your table. Think of this. Good luck!
Author: by Yunus S. Saliu