Lovelines: My girlfriend says I don’t love her
Friday, June 27, 2008
I chased a girl for a very long time before she accepted. I observed that she love me but she is complain that I don’t love her hence I told her that I have called off my former relation. Since I first told her that I was engaged with a lady before she succumbed to me.
What you need to tell her is that you really love her and you don’t want to cheat on her. Beside it is good for both of you to be honest to each other. And whatever you did is for the comfort of both of you because you can not afford loosing her or having another lady in a corner with her or keeping two women at a time. Pet her with sugar coated mouth as much as you possibly can. Good luck!
My mind goes to her always
I was dated a girl for one year before I dumped her. Now I think of her always and I don’t know what to do?
You know what to do, do not hide your feeling. Why don’t you walk straight to her with a rose flower and tell her sorry that she should forgive you and let the love start from where it was hanging. So reconcile if you want your loneliness to disappear. Good luck!
We quarrel every two, two days
I was married since 2005 to a girl I love who also love me but we never compromise with each other. Every two, two days we must quarrel. What is your advice?
Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity. Also it is like a cage; one sees the birds outside; desperate to get in and those inside desperate to get out. Because it is a desperate thing to do, for some youth who never watch their steps enroll in it.
I do not believe that you still love each other as you said. Because if does one of you might have think that since 2005 till date what do you normally quarrel about, did you tolerate or accept each other, do you endure and patient with your partner? Have you enter into dialogue and settle your problem peacefully without it lingering in minds for sometimes. Has both of you think of the legacy you are trying to lay down for your children if there is any? Therefore call your wife to sit and find solution to your problem that is the only advice which means individual should search his or her self and revisit your attitudes. Good luck!
She told me that her marriage is over
I am 24 deeply in love with two girls. My childhood girlfriend that we both date for four years was one day forced to marry a semester. When she confirmed this to me we break the relationship. I was not myself for 2-year until I met another girl who dearly loves and cherish me. It is now after 3 years of my ex marriage we met (again) and she told me that her marriage is over; she’s divorce, and she want to come back to my life. I let her know that I am dating another person but she said she does not care. I finally let her in. I am looking for help.
You did not surprise me, because there are many men outside there that are man but not man enough when it come to woman’s matter. You are one of them. There is no help somewhere than your ability to control your mind/heart to conquer your fantasy. If a lady in love with you can marry to another man either willingly or unwillingly leaving you without your consent because of any circumstance, or later come back because it is over between her and the husband and you accept her back, you will remain as his hands towel forever. A lady, who was there when she abandoned you for a semester, does that mean you want to dump her or start cheating on her. Think wise do not become a woman wrapper. Tell her to go back to her husband or marry another man and be of good friend. But if you like to eat a reminiscent food, continue with her but sooner or later she will dump you again. Good luck!
I don’t know her well
There is a girl that always looks at me and I am sure deep down her heart she is dying to go out with me. The obstacle is that I don’t know her very well.
If you have any feeling for her do not wait until you know her very well, because delay is dangerous. As she is eyeing you, a man is at the corner eyeing her as well. So press the button if you feel the itch in your heart. Good luck!
She is the only one I dreams about
I have been following a girl for over 2 years still she doesn’t accept me to be her boyfriend. She is the only girl I love because I always dream of her.
I will ask you to stop exaggeration and free yourself from love imagination. If you have been following a woman for the past two years without her given you the green light, please leave her alone and chase another girl. Stop seeing her in your dream so that she will not lead you into temptation. Remember dream is sometime fool. I will encourage you to look for other beautiful and nice lady when she sees you cruise around with some beautiful and better chic than her she will envy you and might likely give you a chance. Good luck!
I am thinking of how to chase him
I am 25 dating a man who is 10 years older than I. I love him like that but he is not ready to marry now. Something came up as I saw and start to think about a man whom we never sit and chat together in the past. I think am falling in love with this man but he is not aware of my attraction to him. For a long time now I have been thinking of how to chase him, because he is my life, the only word in my mouth and the man I see in my dreams. But I really need a responsible man who will love and care about me. How can I go about this?
All mankind love a lover because love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other. So she who has never loved has never lived. Therefore if the man dating you is not ready to get marry and you wanted to marry at your age there is nothing bad if you express yourself to someone that you admired. It does not mean who make the first move but what matter most is respect and love. Should in case you really love this man whom you said is your life, what you need to do is to study him and always engage him with some minor and serious chats to test his behavior and getting more knowledge about him. If you are satisfied with him, pass the ball to him in a dribbling manner; ask about his love life and his current girlfriend. Ask him for a stroll and walk very closer to him. Hold is hand very tight. If you don’t understand give a direct call to Lovelines. Good luck!
I will do something very badif my mum doesn’t allow me to marry
I want to get married but my mum said I should finish school. Presently I am in grade 11 going to grade 12. If my mum doesn’t allow me to get marry I will do something very bad. Please help me.
I do not think that you need a help. Although I know that you are being disturbed by your age and lack of ambition in life at the same time under the influence of sensation. It is always like that when a young girl or boy just started body chemistry experimentation. But it is better that you listen to your mother who wanted you to be an achiever in your life. Not all glitter is gold. Have you ever think that all those boys or your boyfriend whom you are running after now can marry you today and divorce you tomorrow because of what? First, she will consider you as a disobedience wife (because you have no respect for your mum), two, as a school dropout, three, as a young girl without future ambition, forth, as a wayward girl-no matter how you wish to satisfy him and proof to loyal, fifth, dependant and liability and many more. He will have another girlfriend with you that is he will cheat on you because you are both young and you ran after him. If you do something silly or very bad you are the one to suffer or
face the consequence.
Think and think very well of what you want to do with your life. Your mum will not go with you to your husband place but it is you and only you with what you are will go. Marriage is a desperate thing, when a woman gets married; it’s like jumping into a hole in the ice in the middle of winter: you do it once and you remember it the rest of your days either good or bad. Note that, "in marriage, a man becomes slack and selfish, and undergoes a fatty degeneration of his moral being," says by Robert Louis Stevenson. I wish you listen to your mother because she is more experienced in it than you. Good luck!
He likes to use and dump woman
There is a guy who chased me for some months before I agreed to be his girlfriend. All I gathered from his friends is that he always uses and dumps woman because he doesn’t love. Now I am deeply in love with him, what can I do?
It is your duties to mount up a defense that will enable you know the type of a guy he is. At the same time to know if the friends are just talk blasphemy against him. Don’t give yourself away so quick. Use your brain if you want to know the truth. Find out about his past girlfriends and know what caused break up between him and them. Doing this you will be able to decide which path to follow. Good luck!
She is pregnant for me by force
I am worried and don’t know what to do. I have been dating a girl for 3-year. She does tell me that her friends said if we do not get a child I will never marry her. She listened to her friends and she gets pregnant for me. Now are parents says I must marry her by force. That statement hurt my dad and said it will never happen and I myself will not hence I don’t trust her anymore because if I marry her she will continue to listen to people outside. Can you say something before I do something stupid?
You amused me. Why can’t you listen to yourself and talk to your dad if your dad doesn’t want to talk to you because you have made a mistake instead of getting hurt because of what your girlfriend’s parents have said. You might not think this is your mistake and harbinger but it is. Since you know you will not marry her, and you feel that she listens to friends why don’t you withdraw from the relation long ago when she does tells you what the friends has suggested to her. This is a real issue that you should have settled amicably as a mature guy and gal. Remember that she never force you to have sex with her but you were enjoying the excitement while she was busy planning because she is not a fool. In a nutshell, it has happened, try to reach a compromise. Tell your father the truth of the matter; he is only hurt because of the word force. Anyhow if you still don’t marry the girl, you can not erase being the father of the unborn child. Think over this because you can’t run away from your shadow. Good luck!
Her mother is my problem
I am a young man of 23 dating a girl of 20. She recently finished her grade 12. I love her and we planned to marry but her mother against this. She said a man as chose her as future wife since she was young. Moreover, this man has been responsible for the payment of her school fees and upbringing up to date. I don’t want to lose this girl, what can I do?
You have no choice here than to give the girl sometime to decide on her own. You should have known better that she is being sponsor by a man before this time. It is also too early for you to be in love or rivalry contest. So find something better doing for yourself if she is meant for you, she will be yours. Marriage should not be the next agenda to two of you hence she just finished her school certificate examination. Think about how both of you will go to the university, work, and achieve. At your age (23/20) marriage should be secondary; the primary should be what to do to become educated and prosperous. But if you really mean to get her for yourself, ask the man to estimate what he has been spending on her so far and pay him back. Doing this her mother will have no choice than to allow you to marry her. Good luck!
Author: by Yunus S. Saliu