Lovelines: I am pregnant…but I want to run away
Friday, July 04, 2008
He calls me name instead of pet names
I can’t say definitely if my guy love me or not because he never call me baby or love instead he calls me my name.
Though he has tried several times to have sex with me but I did not give him a chance because I am 22 still a virgin. One day as he was driving me home after work the phone rang and he answered the call in jittery form. I suspected it was a date. I do not ask him but it is a disrespect talking to another woman in my present. He calls everyday he never confesses or promises to marry me I am confused.
If you want him to call you pet’s name tell him what you want him to call you. Since you are still a virgin tell him and let him make a choice. And if you wish to give him chance according to your text let him know it is against your doctrine but you are accepting because of the love you have for him and tell him to promise you of what you want from him. So if you are satisfy with his answer I wish you well but if it is other way round kiss him goodbye and wait for someone that will love and date you alone. If you really love him and you are expecting him to discuss something like marriage with you, it is important to let him know what hurt you and what make you happy. This is part of courtship but if you are hiding your feeling it can cost you a lot in future. Good luck!
She said I am a brother
I love a girl with all my heart when I approached her she said she regards me as her brother since the guy we both went to her place is like a brother to her.
Well the girl like you not that she hate you. You can only add more love juice and ingredient to your chat with her. Try to let her know that we are all brothers and sisters in this world but what you want her to do is to forget about the brother and replace it with love. Still if she bent on the word brother, give her more time but always care for her. One day she might be yours but don’t put your entire mind until she change and dance to the lyrics of your love sound. Good luck!
He shouts at me always
I have a boyfriend who often shouts at me and talk about his ex girlfriend since we have been dating. I am 18 and our relationship is 5 months old.
Why don’t you read the handwriting on the wall? If a man you love for five months still don’t know how to treat you than to shout and bully you with the talk of his ex, well it is showing you lack of interest. Talk to yourself about why he shout and bully you. If you find out that you are the cause try to correct and behave yourself but if this is not cause by you I think you have to step down till he will realize his mistake. But trying to make the relation work because you love him will not do you of any good but sorrow. Good luck!
I am a graduate but he’s illiterate
I am 21 and a graduate my man is 24 but not educated we are very much in love that settling down is our mission statement but my parents don’t welcome the idea, please help.
As a graduate your parents want you to go with graduate. There is nothing bad in this. Still if you want to marry uneducated man it is still not bad. But whoever you want to marry let the person know that you are a graduate and sooner or later you are going to face a job that will be challenging this might warrant your stay out late, change in character (not most), friends, nature and some other things. Therefore most men will not understand this especially the illiterate one though because of jealousy some educated men may not understand. But the main is for you to talk to your parents and let them know that you both love each other and that you have think about the consequence of marrying to an illiterate. Good luck!
My identity is still pending in his family
I am 21 dating a guy of 24. He is well known in my family whilst my identity is still pending in his family. Each time I come up with the topic to introduce me to his family he will reply very soon that I should not worry. But he wants me to get pregnant and bear him a child. And he is jobless.
You have a choice, it is either you fall into his ‘very soon promise’ or you withdraw from this relationship. I do not see something robust out of this because a man without a job and not planning to get one want you to bear him a child without introduce you to a single member of his family as a friend, fiancé, or something tangible. My friend if you succumb to his wish you are heading for doom. How do you think he will take care of you and the child when you have it, who will welcome you to his family because you are unknown to them? It is your life but watches and thinks before you leap. Good luck!
I am pregnant…but I want to run away
I am a young girl of 20 having a boyfriend who loves me so much and I love him too. We have been dating for 3 years but now I am pregnant for him. I have decides to run away from my parents and come back after giving bath because if they find out that I am pregnant my dad will send me out of his house forever. Tell me should I stay or go on with this decision?
You can not run away from your shadow. The earlier you stay and tell them what has happened to you the better. Nobody can postpone the evil day, if there is anyone who can you should have been able to protect the pregnancy from occurring. So confide in your mother to convince your father for you. And if you know that it is your sister or brother that will listen to you and understand how you are feelings talk to them. Show remorse to your parents about this unexpected development in your life and promise to be a good daughter they will forgive you. If you run away it will not solve the problem but will make you a disobedience and wayward daughter. Also no one pray for bad event what about if things got complicated for you, what will you do? So do not run away but talk to your mother in a sober manner they will listen to you. Good luck!
My family wants me to marry a cousin
It is almost six years that I have been dating my lovely girlfriend and I wish to marry her. But my family is not making thing easy for me they wants me to marry my cousin sister. When I told my girlfriend about this she advised me to marry my cousin that she will wait but I have the feeling that she is going to marry another man. However, I want to share a family with her.
It is a pity that you do not know what you want. Is it that you still really want to marry your beloved girlfriend or you want to take in your cousin as ordained by your family? Think of what you want because you did not specified whether you accepted to your family or to your girlfriend suggestion. You are only feeling about her having to marry another man and your wish to share a family with her. So call and tell Lovelines what you really want for possible or nearest suggestion. Good luck!
My brother doesn’t want to see my boyfriend
I am 18 dating a boy, 19. We are overly in love but my brother hate seeing me with this boy and always treat me badly and wanted to extend it to the boy as well. I love this boy so much that I will sacrifices anything for him as the love of my heart, because my brother runs after girls more than anyone of his age.
Such is life a murderer will never allow someone to play with sword or gun in his presence, because he knows that they are dangerous weapon. So try to talk to your boyfriend to stay away from your brother, meaning you should have a quiet and nice place to always meet possibly in his house, friends’ house or love garden pending the time you will be able to make your brother understand that you have reach the age of adult suffrage. Talk to your mum or elder sister to talk him to avoid confrontation between you, your boyfriend and him. Good luck!
Dad says no visit
I am having a date with a girl that loves me very much but my dad said she should not visit me.
It is unfortunate that you do not tell me the age of you two, your occupations and how often do you normally see each other before your father’s decree. So try to agree with your father first and know the reason why he decreed that. If I know the reason I can say almost exactly how you can soften his mind against this his decision. Good luck!
He seeks for my forgiveness
I am 18 in love with a 20-year-old man. I love him so much but he always cheats on me. We broke up but he is still asking for forgiveness, I do not know if he still loves me.
Since you still love him why don’t you forgive him and tell him what you like and dislike in a relationship. If you do that and ready to abide with it then move on with him and keep reminding him that no more cheat any day you suspect cheat it will be the end. He still comes back to you because you are special so give him a second chance. Good luck!
She asccused me of not been serious
I am 25-year-old it is over 2 years that I have been dating my gal. Recently she got changed and accused me of not serious with the relationship while I never joke with her because she is my heart. I tried to convince her to make her trust me but all to no avail.
You are to have a face-to-face discussion with her, doing this she will be able to tell you what she really wants from you. When she said you are not serious with the relationship she knows why she said that and you know too. It is either you do not think of it that way or you are not ready for it. So have a heart-to-heart talk you will understand her and then make a fast decision if you really love her. Good luck!
Your text is incomplete
Should I keep waiting for a man for 6 years when this man is already married and have a child with a white lady in USA…
Your text is not complete. For quick answer you can call Lovelines. Good luck!
Ready for love
I am a lady of 31 I really need a discipline, Allah fearing, honest, educated and caring man that I will spend the rest of my life with. Non-Gambian Muslim will be too good. Lovelines, do you think men like that still exist?
Wait and see with Allah all things are possible. Are you lovely caring non-Gambian Muslim man that matches up with the above? Okay why don’t you make a call to Lovelines or send an email. She could be yours - Good luck!
I have very strong feelings for her
I met a girl at my work place, the moment I saw her I have very strong feelings for her. I asked for her telephone number she gave it to me. I called her but she told me that I am not invited in her house because she doesn’t want to see me. I am wonder why she gave me her number, name and her address when I asked for it. I don’t know what to do because I really love this girl.
This kind of love is a fantasy. That she gave you her particulars doesn’t mean she wanted to date you. But she can with times if you do not rush her. At the same time you should have try as much as possible before she left you the day you met her and hit the nail on the edge that could have put her suspense and give you a clue of what you will hear from her. She told you not to come to her house now because she knew what you intend to do that you never say out. If you want to continue try to break her defense mechanism. So, start the game on your phone till you are able to encompass her mind then it will become express way for you. Good luck!
Author: by Yunus S. Saliu