I had a terrible heartbreak

Lovelines
I had a terrible heartbreak two years ago when my fiancé left for Europe and kissed me goodbye. It was as if my whole world had come crashing down. But now I am beginning to pick up the pieces of my life. This is because I just met a guy who works in a bank.

He is 35, three years older than I am. The problem is that he hardly has time for me. I suspect that he is seeing other girls but each time I go to his house there are no signs that he is cheating on me. What could be going on in his mind? Is he not interested in me?

Kanja
You deserve sympathy because of all you have gone through during these 2 years. But I foresee light at the end of the tunnel for you. Some people actually go through worse situations and still smile at the end. The truth is that you did not give me enough clues about your boyfriend to be able to decipher what must be going through his mind.

One thing you need to know about men is that they are always filled with the quest to succeed so that may affect the amount of attention you may be getting from them. Since you do not know there is another woman in his life, it is not proper to conclude that he does not love you. Communication is good. Let him know how you feel and hear what he will say. Good luck!

My heart is heavy

Lovelines
My boyfriend has hurt me very badly. We dated for over 5 years. During that period, I faced all sorts of problem and humiliation because of him. Both family and friends advised me to leave him but I refused. One thing, I had sponsored him by paying his school fees and gave him all the support that he needed. But he has used me and dumped me without anyone to help me. Now I am going crazy because of him. I can’t eat, neither can I sleep.

Masata
I will advise you to take heart. Learn how to be alone. What has happened to you is a long standing disease that can affect anyone who is in love. This happened to you because you were blindfolded by his love.

So put the humiliation you have faced aside if you really want to pick up your life again. Think about your future and how you will realise your dreams. Your concentration and focus will heal your heartbreak, and end the sleepless nights. Moreover, it will attract some men to you whereby you will be able to select a suitable one for yourself. Know that without loss there will be no gain. Your harvest period is on the way. Good luck!

Forgive and roll on

Lovelines
What should a lady do if she still loves a man that she has broken up with for two years and some months when such a man comes back to ask for her forgiveness. And this break up was due to the fact that the man was in love with her childhood friend while he was dating her.

Zainah
Since the lady still loves the man, forgiveness is the best pill. That is if the lady is still alone without another boyfriend. Forgive because he has realised his mistake and repented. But before that, make sure that he is sober and shows remorse for his actions. At the same time, be sure of his dating status; if you are satisfied with that then keep the love radiating. Should he still fail in the above, then forgive and forget about the relationship. Because once beaten, twice shy. Good luck!

A bitter marriage

Lovelines
I am a married woman with three kids but I have no happy home since I got married. The main cause of my unhappy marriage is nothing but cheating. My husband always cheats on me. He changes girls like clothes. Each time I complain about his way of life he will beat me. Some of these girls will call to insult me. But my husband has never said anything about this. Because of his beating, I now have difficulty in breathing and have developed high blood pressure.

Misrat
Wife battering constitutes violence against women. It is not advisable for a couple to fight physically. Call your husband and tell him how you hate fighting like immature boys and girls. Talk to him about the bad effect this can have on the children.
If he persists, talk to his parents and other relatives. If he still does not change a tougher decision might have to be made. Visit a doctor for medical check up so that you be healthy enough to take care of your children. Good luck!

I accused my boyfriend

Lovelines
I accused my boyfriend of impregnating a girl. He is very angry with me over this. Now he says that I have spoilt his name and let him down. I am so confused. What do I do now?

Aminata
If it is not true that he impregnated any girl and you said he did, then that was a serious blunder. You have to request for his audience to enable you to apologize to him. Tell him what came over you before you said so. Apologize and desist from rumours. Good luck!

I don’t want to be disappointed again

Lovelines
I am an 18-year old. I have been disappointed 3 times by my former girlfriends. Now I have a new lover but I am afraid that she might do the same thing. What can I do to avoid disappointment from her?

Nfamara
You are too young to have suffered from three disappointments. I do not know how you were disappointed by the three girls but you need to plan your life rather than ranting about being disappointed by women. Before I can say something on this, I must know how you suffered the disappointments.

In a nutshell, all you need to do is to watch how you relate with ladies. Compare the past three ladies’ behaviours with your attitude and the circumstances guiding your separation from each of them. There you will know where your disappointments always come from. Good luck!

She always invites me

Lovelines
I am dating a girl. I deeply love this girl. She always comes whenever I demand to see her, while she invites me to her house always. Still she doesn’t answer to my love request.
Salim

No yes or no answer

Lovelines
It is almost one year that I have been following one girl for love. Yet she refused to say yes or no. But we normally spend time together. Each time I call her to see me she will surely come. She is really attracted to me but I don’t know how to go about it.

Amadou
Salim and Amadou, it always baffles me when I read text or hear men saying I am dating her but she did not say ‘yes or accept my love’ or ‘I am in love with her for years or months but she did not visit me,’ and so on. Men should get one thing right - that you can not be in love or date a lady who has not accepted your love request.

You can be a friend while trying. Moreover, if you have tried for sometime and she refused to give you a plain answer, forget about it and become good friends to each other. In future, through your actions, which are louder than words, she can be attracted to you. So friendship can turn to love. In brief, you are not dating yet but are friends. Good luck!

Single and childless

Lovelines
I fell in love with a girl who I believe will make my dreams come true. The girl told me that she is married with two children. Upon investigation, I got to know that she is not married and has no children. So what can I do to get her?

Baldeh
Are you a fortune-teller?  How did you know that with her your “dreams will come true”? Anyway, there is nothing you can do other than to become her friend. In future, if she finds you interesting, she might be yours. She has already set up her defense mechanism which you can only penetrate through friendship. Good luck!



Mod’lamin
I never knew that sharing with the right person was the ultimate until I found you. You are the one I love. I am in love forever. No circumstance can change my opinion.

Sukai

‘Sweet-F’
Teach me how to love in the true sense of the word that I may be soaked in the warmth of loving you. No other love suffices except yours.
Naba

Maryam
The first day I met you, your beauty could have made me run into an on-coming vehicle. I will always love you.
Saidy

Titi
You will always be my love. I promise to always be there for you in bad times and in good times. I love you
Kajally

Dalanda
Take each day as it comes and never take life too seriously. Some are rumourmongers but with Allah, we shall overcome them. Believe me, I love you and I will always do.
Momodou

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