I have a lover and we are together for 2 years now.  Recently, he fell in love with a 50-year-old woman fit to be his mother as she is 20 years older than him. He lied and said it’s his friend's wife when in fact he is sleeping with her.

When he comes to me he stays for some time and after receiving calls from the woman he rushed and said my friend has travelled and his wife has problems with her landlord I am going to sort it out and off he goes to spend the night with her. A trusted friend told me all about it but he denied it. What can I do I love him so much?

Rachael

Can I say it in a riddle so that you can understand me very well? Okay, an experience of pleasure makes us demand more of it, and the more is this urge to be secure in our pleasures.

If we love someone, we want to be quite sure that that love is returned, and we seek to establish a relationship which we at least hope will be permanent. So it is good that you quickly know that he is lying somehow, hence it is not his duty to spend the night with his friend’s wife that have problem with their landlord. Instead of that he can order you to go and pass the night with her or bring her to pass the night in your guest room. Anyway woman can make a man to run the arms of other woman if...but that should not also be the case because it is not a food.

Since you still love him why can’t you tell him to chose between you and his old cargo and let him know that you are jealous of his doing because of the love you have for him? Then give him what he wants after a solid agreement. But if he continued flirting around other women, you have no choice to be on your own. Good luck!

I sent him a rude text message

Lovelines,

For the past months I have being in on and off relationship with my guy. We once break up and later reconcile. Now he is keeping a chain of girlfriends, this do not border me hence he always spend part of his time with me.  But as I am writing this, we broke up again due to one of his numerous commands that make me to disobey him. Because of this, I sent him a rude text message so that he can feel jealous about me. Please help me because I still love him.

Binta

If you really know that you love him, why don’t you call him right away and let him know your feeling for him. Seek for his forgiveness and let him know that you only send that text to him in order to feel remorse for his excessive commands. Let him know that love comes in understanding relationship. Because love can’t be cultivated but it comes into being darkly, unknowingly, and fully. So when we understand this whole process of relationship then the mind is quiet. Good luck!

My love intermediary is acting strangely

Lovelines,

I am in love with my lady friend’s cousin. And this friend of mine has helped me to succeed in getting her. Now that the relationship with the girl is on, my friend, she is a cousin and intermediary between two of us is now acting strangely and feeds me with different stories because she doesn’t want us to be again. She always tells me that “your girl have another boy, she is idle, she is receiving text messages from boys” etc. And I really trust this girl and she trust me too. But I am confuse. Please help me.

Nfam

Forget about what your lady friend is saying about your lover girl. All you have to do about this is to be passionate, but if you are not sensitive you can be. Do not be afraid to tell your friend the words ‘thank you I love her’ all she is saying might be a result of jealousy. She might want your attention. So continue to love and trust your love one because it is time for her to step aside since she has finished her own task by bringing you together. Good luck!

She betrays my love but I am now engage

Lovelines,

It was 100 per cent of love between my ex and I before throughout 9 months that we dated. She gave me hope and promised to be the mother of my children but she one day betrayed me without any reason, despite her meeting with all member of my clans. She regrets it and come back to me for continuation, while I am already engages with another girl who has won my heart.

Saidy

Well tell her it is too late to cry when the head is off. So far you have another person who has won your heart and you too love dearly, it is a bye-bye to old love. Though she might have learnt her lesson but you can pull back the hands of the clock. Good luck!

He never calls or care for me

Lovelines,

I am a young lady of 21 dating a man of 24. Our relationship is 3 months. He was not working before but now he is. He never calls me on phone it is only me that call him and care for him. So what can I do?

Jojo

Let me make it clear to you that love does not complain, hate or  quarrel. Also it is not everyone that say I love you know how to care for those they love. So it is important that you should always understand each other. What you should first think of is the love and respect, if he have this for you he will surely care for you if you challenge him. But if he has not being care and calling earlier before he started working, tell him your mind that you are not happy with that. If he continues without change you will definitely know that he is managing your love for the mean time. Good luck!

I dumped him for his friend

Lovelines,

I am a young lady. I was in love with a boy who doesn’t appreciate my love. I later made up my mind and dumped him. Now that I am dating his friend who really appreciates my love he now wanted to come back to my life. What can I do?

Satang

It is good to love someone that appreciates you for whom you are. Already you had switched to his friend you have to continue with him. But if you still consider the love you have for your ex, you will become a laughing stock. At the same time all his friends will like to have a taste of your sweet cake and play you like a round leather. So think of your decision and follow your heart. Good luck!

What is the next step?

Lovelines,

Thanks for your advice. Yet I haven’t talked to her about outing because she is on examinations, but when I requested for something from her she responded positively. What advice do you have for me and the step to take that is different from outing?

Saikou

If you know that you can’t take her out or have no time for that then ask for her audience in a quiet place since you are the type that feels shy and express your feelings to her ones and for all. Note that the more you keep on delaying it, the more others are there to take her out and win her love from you. So summon courage and express your feeling. All woman are approachable, they will only answer yes or no but can’t kill you. Good luck!

I can’t forget her

Lovelines,

I was dating a girl for almost 2-year. I planed to married her but I caught her with another man. It is now 8-month that we broke up  but the problem is that I can’t forget her. What can I do now?

Landing

If you are ready to share her with another man then go ahead why don’t you call her and continue from where you stop? Love is a thing from the heart, so read and follow your heart. Good luck!

She wants me back

Lovelines,

My first love wants me back after being married for 8 years with 3 kids to another man. Her husband is in Europe and I am a stranded guy here in the country. She is very caring and she truly wants me back.

Sannah

I will not prologue this matter than to tell you to quit this her love racket hence she has gone for 8-year and now that she want to come back to your life she is still with another man. Please think deeply about it and follow your heart to wherever it takes you. Good luck!

She does not have time for me

Lovelines,  

I am married to a 29-year- old lady. Her problem is that she does not have time for me except at bedtime. I am the one that do initiate our sex life every time since the past nine years that we got married. What can I do?

Essa

You are the one that married her, by now both of you suppose to understand each other. Her inability to initiate the sex life except you do might be as a result of shyness, depression and sometime confusion. So do not hesitate to ask more question if you are not clear with this Lovelines will surely answer you. Good luck!

Lovelines,

Do you think it is true that I can find a man that I can proud of and got married to through reading Lovelines? I will be very happy if my dreams of marrying to a serious and discipline man as my life partner come true. Please help.

Baby-G

Lovelines is true and real! You can get a partner through reading of Lovelines. The ball is now in the court of Lovelines male readers. Serious minded person can easily pick up his phone and call Lovelines or send an email as usual. Remember loneliness is a state of isolation. Good luck!

He is not thinking of marriage

Lovelines,

I am young girl of 18. The guy I was dating before never think of marriage. But now that I have met another guy who really love me and ready to do anything I ask of him for me, my ex now wanted to come back. Also he wanted to marry me in the next 8 years, while my present lover guy is dating a girl who is aware of the relation but he does not want to break up with her. The girl is always challenging  me for a fight. Any guidelines?

Rebecca

There is no special guideline than for you to get ready to fight for the love of your heart. But I will rather advise you to face a good career than engaging in a love controversy. Reason, you are still young. But you have to remember that whomever that wants to eat with the devil must have a long spoon. So if you are ready to win another girl’s boyfriend heart you must tight up your skirt. So if she wants fight do not hesitate. Good luck!

Lovelines,

It is more than three years that I have been dating a girl. I love her very much and I call her everyday, but the girl has never one day call me with her phone. I don’t know whether she love me or not. What do you think can cause this?

Salifue

I want you to know that her not calling you as you do does not mean that she is not loving you. She does love you. Her inability to call you might due to your closeness and probably she got no credit. But if you want her to call you, why don’t you buy credit and send it to her and see if you she will call you or not. Good luck!

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