Lovelines

I have a very big problem. I am a happily married woman but my husband’s blood brother said he loves me. He does not give me a breathe space he follows me around with love expression and sexual harrassment. Please help me my husband stays in States.  

Nelly

The earlier you confide in someone and open the can of worm to your husband and other in-laws to see the better. If you do not do it now it might cause you your marriage in future.

First, try as much as possible to take record of his sexual advancement towards you. If possible buy a tape recorder or if you have mobile phone that can record voice, try as much as possible to record his voice (his love conversation) secretly as evidence whenever he started his act.

Do not make it in a rude way and do not be over confidence. After you had got some facts that really revealed that he meant his love expression for you, inform your parents so that they can have a meeting and discuss with your in-laws (your husband’s parents and his elders) about his flirting around you. Without this, he will succeed in intimidating you. If you still don’t understand do not hesitate to call for more explanation. Good luck!

Men always asks for my virginity

Lovelines

Why do men always ask for my virginity? I am 25 I don’t want to bring shame into my family but I don’t know what to do. I have a man in my life but I do not know that he is married because he never told me. When I got to know this I asked him but he got angry. I don’t want to back off easily because I want to hear the truth from him. But I don’t know how to go about it.    

Nafisa

This is due to the society whereby people believe that woman’s ‘true worth of a race must be measured by its characters of womanhood.’ It is not every man that will ask for a virgin lady mostly of your age.

Also, if you are still at home, any man that is serious and ready to marry you will not make it a demand to deflower you before getting married to you as far as you are sure of yourself because ‘sex is never an emergency.

’ Since Bertrand Russell said "civilized people cannot fully satisfy their sexual instinct without love." However, I don’t think this man love you and ready to marry you. So far he got angry with you, show him the road to his wife and take your time your destined husband we surely come to your way.

A man that hide his family before another woman in the name of dating is not a man enough and such will never be caring to his wife because he will always goes out to browse and buy another woman as far as the pendulum under his thighs is swinging. You do not need lesson of how to find if it is true since he got annoyed, visit his house and hit the nail by the head. Good luck!

He does not care for me

Lovelines  

I have a boyfriend but he does not care for me. Since I love him I do not know what to do.

Binta

She who has never love has never live. But if someone you love is not caring you need not to bother yourself because caring is not only given out money alone. You can not continue with uncaring partner, you need to move on. Good luck!

She always gives me excuse

Lovelines

My relationship with my girl is just four months old. We were staying in the same area before I moved to another compound. I love and cherish her, but since I have changed my abode I found it difficult to see her. I call and visit her but it is to no avail. If at all I see her she always gives me excuses. However my friend tells me that he always sees her with another man since I packed away from the area.  Now I don’t know what to do. I am 20 about to frustrate. Is there any advice for me?

Lamrana

There is nothing you can do than to kiss her goodbye and move on with your life. That is always a result of loving someone staying not far from you. You are no more in her vicinity therefore she has decided to give chance to those that are not far from her as well and if in similar vein you want to continue but the news from those that knows you together when you stays around will not got an end. Her excuses is to wave you away and keep you in a cooler as a reserve. So if she loves you she will look for you. Good luck!

Telephone chat problem

Lovelines

At the age of 29 I am dating a girl of 19. It is 9 months now she never allowed me to visit her because of her parents’ norms but she does visit me occasionally and call regularly. In the past two months, she told me to stop calling her because her parents are suspecting our relationship. Unknown to me one day, she  sent me a text via unfamiliar number and said that I once give her a lift to Banjul and since then she has fell in love with me. We often chats everyday, till last week when she showed herself to me and said "the relationship between us is over," because of how I chats on the phone with a strange woman. So help me I am confused!

Kinteh

It is a pity that you had just failed a common test lover does set to examine their lovers. All you need to do is to try how you can wire her back. Try to call her and explain to her that those texts you are sending to her when she was impersonate herself are just a game you like to play with her because you understand her as the one sending the text because if you are wake up from your slumber you understand her styles of sending text or chatting with you. Mind you, this can only workout if it is only SMS texts without voice involve but if voice involve, talk about how you love her and pretend not to understand the game she was playing so let her forget what you sent or said during the chatting. But if she still takes her stand then receive the farewell and shakes and continue your love life elsewhere. Good luck!  

My performance drops gradually at school

Lovelines

I was a very brilliant student before. But when I moved one more step grade and started dating a boyfriend I noticed that my performance at school started dropping gradually. During summer holiday I traveled and eventually break up with him before we reconcile I was able to pick and started to climb back the success ladder. Now that we have reconciled I discovered that my grade is dropping again. I do not know what to do because this guy does not want to understand me?

Evelyn

Your poor performance in your education is due to your concentration on your boyfriend. That is to say that you have devoted all your time that supposed to be used for studying either at home or school to your boyfriend.  You should know that two things can not go at the same time.

My candid opinion to you if you will accept is to tell your boyfriend to give you time for your education mostly if he is not a student or serious student. Better still, drop the subject boyfriend if you want to achieve good grade and became something in future. Education is most essential and is better than gold and silver. Education is always appreciated but dating or boyfriend shall always depreciate until you get married to your heart desire.

To get your heart desire you must be an achiever. Make the hail while the sun shines so that you can be part of women of substance. Again forget about boyfriend if you want better life and concentrate on your study. Good luck!

I have no plan for marriage

Lovelines

I am a boy of 21 dating a girl I love most. She once spoke to me about marriage, but I have no plan for marriage yet. Her parents married her out to one man, since then she can not do without call or send text that she wanted to visit me. She keeps on telling me that ‘one day she is going to fall apart from the husband.’ It is a surprise; my mind often goes with this statement while I can’t wait to see the day. What can I do in order not to be an instrument to her marriage break up? Anyway, it is a difficult parting for me.

Bensouda

You asked about what to do in order not to be an accessory to her marriage break up. Keep off from her. Yes, what to do is to keep off from her she is no more yours since you are not yet ready and she was married out. Try to make her understand that she is now belonging to someone else. Encourage her to learn how to stay in marriage. But if you know you can not handle this then evade her regular calls and texts. Good luck!

I realized she has a child

Lovelines

I love my girlfriend very much but not long ago I realized that she is having a child for another man before we met. However, I still love her but she does not like to visit me. In addition, I think she pretends to love me. What do I do to know the truth?

Mam

You do not need any truth on this matter than to leave her and look for someone that will love you without pretend. She belongs to someone that is the reason you were the one to found out about her having a child for a man without she telling you. So she is keeping away from you as a result that her heart is still somewhere else. Listen to your heart and search for your own partner. Good luck!

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